By Stephanie Feger
May 31, 2018, 1:35pm
Most of your life is out of your control. Even if you are strategic with your life’s path and career journey, you can’t control the impact other people have on how you navigate through it.
Don’t waste your energy trying to attempt to control the world around you. Instead, spend your precious time harnessing the only thing you have the ability to impact — you.
Regardless of where you seek success, the only way to fully reach it is to start from within and shift your perspective. The tips below can help you do just that.
Adjust your story
Think about the conversations that go through your mind during a meeting? Instead of focusing on the content, you converse with your inner self, judging your co-worker’s attire, questioning a company policy or brainstorming your to-do list. Without ever parting your lips, you are writing a story — both about others and about yourself.
The story starts when you look in the mirror in the morning. It continues when you prep for a meeting and after you conclude it. It doesn’t stop when family demands show up at home. The inner conversations you have during these situations are important because the story you tell yourself is just as significant as the story that actually happens.
Finding true fulfillment isn’t possible unless you start by making a pact with yourself that the story you write within is one that focuses on your strengths and is built on self-affirmation. Because if you don’t believe in yourself, who will?
Make the choice
Every moment of your life — from when you wake up in the morning to when you go to bed each night — you have a choice, and what you do with this choice has the capacity to change your life.
You are given the choice to determine how you are going to respond to the cards life deals you. Daily you are guaranteed to face disappointment, but it’s in these moments where you choose whether to be a victim or an opportunist.
You can’t be filled with gratitude if you are hung up with a bad attitude. You will never see the rainbow if you are living under a cloud. You attract what you put out, and if you are putting out negative energy, positivity has nowhere to take root.
While you can’t control what happens in life, you can control how you respond to it. This choice isn’t easy, but when you choose to see life happen for you, you see windows open when doors shut.
Choose to shift your perspective — to see the good and to be the good. For when you do, not only will you find fulfillment in new ways at work and at home, you will find peace from within.
Passion. Purpose. Perspective. Influence.
You were never meant to just go through the motions. While the motions of life get you from place to place, they were never promised to get you to your end destination fulfilled.
Motions weren’t meant to be fueled by responsibilities. They were meant to get energy from passion. If you can harness what you are passionate about, you will find embedded within it your life’s purpose.
Understanding this will help you identify actions that will help you achieve it and those that don’t. If you are brave, you will shift your perspective to only allow experiences, interactions and comments from others to fuel your purpose.
If your purpose drives you, it will be evident. Think about the people that you enjoy most in your life. Think about your interactions at work — your mentors and your respected leaders. You are likely drawn to those you enjoy engaging with. These people, while encompassing various traits, most likely are passion-fueled and perspective-driven. Because when you harness both, influence follows.
When you are someone of influence, you have the ability to affect another in some way. Whether you influence a behavior or their character, you are making a difference, and that is where fulfillment lies.
Success is within reach but without shifting perspective, you may reach it without finding true fulfillment. But if you do, you will find yourself enriched in more ways than you ever dreamed feasible.
— Stephanie Feger is founder of Louisville-based business Color Today Pretty, a professional speaker and author of the book “Color Today Pretty: An Inspirational Guide to Living a Life in Perspective.” Reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org or ColorTodayPretty.com.
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